A-Z reasons why you should meditate as shared by meditators.

A – Awareness

Meditation is complete awareness. It can happen every moment but it has to start with eyes closed!
Varun Uniyal, Business Analyst

B – Bliss

After meditation, I feel a sense of absolute bliss for a long time.
Gurudatt Anvekar, Graphic Designer

C – Calm

When the mind is calm, meditation happens automatically and when you meditate, the mind calms down automatically.
Amit Gupta, Software Developer

D – Divinity

Meditation brings me closer to the divinity in me.
Ankit Batheja, Business Analyst

E – Emptiness

You need to meditate to touch the core of emptiness. When I experience that space within me, I feel enriched, and can experience the fullness of peace and joy.
Niladri Dutta, Graphic Designer

F – Fruitful

After I started meditating, life has become more fruitful. Suddenly there is a purpose to life.
Mahima Bhanot, Travel Agent

G – Grounded

With regular practice of meditation, I can now stay grounded and keep my cool even in difficult situations.
Vimal Nair, Software Programmer

H – Hug

Meditation is like giving a loving hug to myself, getting in touch with that awesome part of me.
Sylaja Kannan, Content Editor

I – Intimacy

While meditating, I feel a deep sense of intimacy with God, a love that is inexplicable.
Jennifer D’Costa, Student

J – Joy

Meditation has given me a joy that lasts for days together.
Deepti Dham, HR Professional

K – Knowledge

Meditation makes me dive deeper into knowledge, the ultimate truth.
Nikhila Singh, Supervisor, Oberoi Hotels

L – Love

Meditation is experiencing love of a different kind, a different flavor. It is falling in love with the divine.
Mohini Mathur, Housewife

M – Must

A must do every day! Do you forget to brush your teeth? Then how can you forget to meditate?
Sonali Sharma, Professor

N – Natural

Meditation lets me be absolutely natural. At 17, I still feel like a child.
Dolly Puri, Student

O – Oneness

Meditation is experiencing a sense of oneness with yourself.
Amit Singh, Designer

P – Priority

Make meditation a priority in your life and see how everything else falls in place all by itself.
Vijayan G, Retiree

Q – Quilt

Meditation is my quilt that protects me against chilly weather outside, keeping me nice and warm within.
Joicy Mathew, Office Manager

R – Rejuvenate

Meditation rejuvenates me to carry through the day with enthusiasm.
Vivek Pandey, Software Tester

S – Smiling

Meditation keeps me ever smiling, makes my smile unshakeable.
Eben Felix, Travel Writer

T – Tranquil

A tranquil state of mind is all I want and meditation is the only way.
Mukta Behere, Content Writer

U – Umbrella

Meditation is like an umbrella sheltering me from the heavy rain of sorrow.
Arti Thaker, Florist

V – Victory

Meditation is victory of the Big Mind (Self) over the Small (human) Mind.
Nandini Nandan, Bharatanatyam Artist

W – Warm

Meditation is like a warm mug of hot chocolate on a chilly morning.
Deepti Sachdev, Teacher

X – X-Ray Vision

Meditation gives me the ability to look at the core of the situation, just like an X-Ray.
Resha Patel, Manager

Y – Yo-yo

With meditation, you can joyfully bounce through the ups and downs of life, enjoying the roller-coaster ride.
Ruchi Pahuja, SEO Expert

Z – Zeal

Meditation gives me the zeal to do absolutely anything that creates positivity within and around me.

From: The art of living’s FB

10 Things Mentally Strong People do Differently

http://www.ewao.com/a/1-10-things-mentally-strong-people-do-differently

Have you ever noticed how some people seem to crumple at the slightest sign of a challenge in life while others are perpetually soaring?  Have you ever known a person who seemed to thrive on challenges and embrace change?  Mentally strong people take responsibility for their lives, empower themselves, and focus on the positive.  Here are 10 habits of mentally strong people:

  1. Take Responsibility for their lives: rather than playing the blame game or victim card, mentally strong people acknowledge their responsibility over their own lives and make it work for them.
  2. Celebrate the success of others: rather than being threatened or jealous by other people’s success, mentally strong people understand that appreciation of the energy of success helps manifest it in their own lives.
  3. Take risks: Taking risks is essential in life because nothing is guaranteed.  Mentally strong people weight their choices and take smart risks.
  4. Think positive: It’s easy to point out all the things around us that we don’t like, but to a mentally strong person, the focus is always on the things that are preferred, appreciated, and positive because the focus on such things creates more of it. Like attracts like.
  5. Accept things they can’t control: Mentally strong people take responsibility for their lives, but recognize that control is an illusion.  They relinquish control and go with the flow.
  6. Learn from their mistakes and lessons: Mentally strong people accept their mistakes, forgive themselves, and move forward by growing from the lesson they have learned.  They use the wisdom gained to avoid making the same mistake again.
  7. Relish time alone: Insecure people who are not happy with their lives avoid time alone because they are avoiding facing themselves.  Mentally strong people know that time alone is necessary and nourishing and cultivate a balance between intentional action and rest and relaxation.
  8. Persistence after failure: Mentally strong people know that failure is just a step on the path that is sometimes necessary to move forward.  Rather than letting it stop them or get them down, they take a breather and keep going, seeing the failure as a learning experience.
  9. Focus on Pleasing themselves first: People often give their power away by focusing their energy on pleasing everyone else.  This comes from a fear of not being accepted or of need external validation for oneself.  A mentally strong person knows that their own happiness and well-being comes first and that from a place of wellness and happiness they are able to inspire others.
  10. Let go of the past: Mentally strong people don’t live in the past or the future, they are not filled with anxiety or regret, but are focused in the present.  Mentally strong people recognize that who they were or what they did in the past does not define who they are in the now and thus liberate themselves.

Start Now

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/04/start-now-christina-chastain/

Even if you think it’s too late, it’s not.

Spend time with the right people.

These people come few and far between, but once they are in your life, they will stay there forever. These are the people you enjoy, who love and understand you. They are the ones who make you feel more alive and not only embrace who you are now, but who you want to become.

Face problems head on.

The most important thing that my mother has ever taught me (besides if you think it’s too much eyeliner, it is) is that it isn’t your problems that define you—it’s how you react to them.

I used to be the one to bury my head in the sand if a problem arose, but quickly learned that problems do not go away until you find a way to take care of them.

Be honest with yourself—about everything.

Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed. Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become. My dear friend once told me that once you become complacent, you no longer strive to be better. If you are truly unhappy, or even just complacent, change.

Make your own happiness a priority.

This can be the hardest goal to carryout because there is a common misconception that you can’t please everyone. Remember, it is possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you. And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.

Be yourself—genuinely and proudly.

It takes a lifetime to fully get to know yourself, so start as soon as possible. Trying to be someone else is a waste of the person that you are.

Embrace your own ideas, strengths and beauty.

Live in the present.

Right now is a miracle. Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you. Right now is life.

Stop thinking about how things could have been because you are here, right now, for a reason.

Value the lessons that mistakes teach you.

If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough. Take risks, stumble, fall, but most importantly, get up, take responsibility and try again.

Give your ideas and dreams a chance.

Either you succeed or you learn something. You will never know if you never try.

Cheer the victories of others.

Be happy for others making progress. Be thankful for their blessings and let them know. What goes around comes around and pretty soon, they will be cheering you on.

Notice silver linings.

Look for the small glimmers of hope in a rough situation and remind yourself of all the things in your life that are right. Focus on what you have, not what you don’t.

Notice the beauty of small moments.

Instead of focusing on the big things, like marriage, kids or a big promotion, find happiness in the small things that happen every single day – the quiet cup of coffee in the morning, the book you can’t put down, holding hands.

Forgive others—and most importantly—yourself.

Experiencing pain because of your actions or the actions of others is normal – it means you’re human; however, if you hold on to this pain, you will never be able to move on and grow. Forgiveness is key. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past or forgetting what happened, it means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain and instead choosing to learn and move on.

Actively nourish your important relationships.

Bring real, honest joy into your life and the lives of those you love by simply telling them how much they mean to you on a regular basis. Decide who these people are and treat them like royalty. Do not take them for granted.

Notice how wealthy you are—right now.

As Henry David Thoreau said, “Wealth is the ability to fully experience life.” Even when times are tough, it’s always important to keep things in perspective. I woke up this morning with a roof over my head. I have a choice in what religion I want to practice, what job I want to do and who I want to love. I have clean drinking water and medical care. I can read and I have an education. Some would say I am incredibly wealthy.

Help others around you.

No matter how busy you are, find time to help others in need. It could be as simple as giving a bottle of water to a homeless person on the side of the road or traveling to a foreign country to lend a helping hand. Do what you can.

Don’t ever regret.

Don’t ever regret.

Be present, be responsible for every decisions you make so you don’t ever have to regret.

Know that if you could come back to that time, you would still do the same thing, because that was the best version of yourself at that time.

You are growing, stronger and wiser. Pick and learn lessons from life’s events, but do not regret.

Don’t waste your energy on something you cannot change, use it wisely at the present so you can change your future.

Best things need effort, or a lot of effort.

“We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.”

Affirmations Don’t Work for Me. Here Are 20 Reminders That Do

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-16360/affirmations-dont-work-for-me-here-are-20-reminders-that-do.html

I’m gonna be honest. I often find myself reading “affirmations” and feeling all sorts of angry. I’ve never been into forced “positive thinking,” and although I recognize it floats some people’s boats, it has more of a torpedo effect on mine.

So I created a list of reminders (call them what you wanna call them), that actually help me live my best life. Here it is:

1. I’m imperfect, like everyone else, and that’s OK. My self worth is not dependent on an accomplishment, number, or status.

2. Life is filled with sadness, pain, illness, death, and loss. These are universal human experiences.

3. Pain is out of my control. Self-compassion is in my control.

4. I am constantly changing; my world is constantly changing; everything I experience (physical, mental, and emotional) will come and go.

5. Being perfect is not what connects people. Vulnerability brings us closer together.

6. If I knew I only had a week to live, I should ask, “what would be important?

7. There are no “bad” feelings; however, there are unhelpful reactions to difficult feelings. Experiencing uncomfortable feelings doesn’t make something wrong with me, it makes me human.

8. Playing is not irresponsible; in fact it’s the opposite. Fun is necessary for happiness.

9. The longest relationship I’ll have in my life is the one with myself. Other people will come and go, but I’ll be with myself from birth until death. The sooner I decide to start being kind to myself, the longer I have to live life supporting rather than undermining myself.

10. Whatever it is that I’m going through, chances are there are thousands of others going through a similar experience. We’re all in this together.

11. To ask for help is not a sign of weakness; on the contrary, it’s actually a sign of strength and courage

12. What’s the worst that can happen? Consider that question. Then ask: “What do I need to survive that?

13. Things come together and fall apart, and come together and fall apart again. This is what life is.

14. There are no objective truths. How I perceive myself and my world is flexible and can change.

15. Acceptance is not about liking, wanting, or condoning. Acceptance can liberate us.

16. Humans are resilient beings. I am programmed to heal.

17. We have the ability to find meaning in our suffering. Sometimes it just takes creativity.

18. What serves another person might not serve me, and vice versa.

19. Realistic expectations mitigate unnecessary pain, disappointment, and frustration, and my energy changes from moment to moment. I put 80% in everything I do, sometimes more and sometimes less.

20. I don’t have to “reach my potential” but I will do my best not to sleepwalk through my life.

Live a life that matters

“If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now. Find your passion, whatever it is. Become it, let it become you, and great things will happen FOR you, TO you, and BECAUSE of you. And even if things don’t work out as planned, you’ll still be heading in the right direction. Because nothing you have passion for is ever a waste of time, no matter how it turns out.”

This is What Every Happy Person I Know Understands.

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/09/this-is-what-every-happy-person-i-know-understands/

Changing our lives is all the rage right now.

There’s never been a culture so obsessed with changing, so determined to access the next best version of our lives.

Looking back on history, it used to be that we couldn’t actually change much about our circumstances. Relationships were arranged for us. Socioeconomic status was predestined. We knew the cards we were dealt and we knew we had little choice but to make the best of them.

It’s easy to feel badly for those who endured such times and many of us thank goodness things have changed. But I think we underestimate the extent to which we’re just as, if not more, trapped in unhappiness nowadays as we imagine people must have been back in the old days.

Think about it: Many of us weren’t exactly taught to make the most of what we have. Unlike our ancestors, the common narrative of our culture today is that everyone has the power to create something better.

And because we’ve been trained to incessantly grasp for something better, we haven’t mastered the art of turning what we already have into gold.

In other words, we aren’t alchemists. We don’t know how to take uninspiring material and transform it into something valuable and beautiful. When we spend our lives striving for more, we don’t learn the basic skill of appreciating what we have. When we live this way, happiness always lies in the future and we are always waiting for it to be delivered through external means.

But what about the happiness that’s available to us from within, right now?

I’m a coach. My job is to have conversations with people that lead to positive changes in their lives. When I tell people what I do, the majority assume this means I’m good at finding solutions to people’s problems. They think maybe I have some of the answers they’ve been looking for. They tell me what they’re up against and expect our conversation to be a strategy session of sorts.

But it’s not. About 95 percent of what I’m actually doing in those conversations is getting my clients to look at what they can change in themselves in order to have a different experience than the one that’s making them unhappy. My aim is to have them stop arguing with things that have already happened, things outside themselves that they can’t change, and instead to identify what they actually do have the power to change (which usually starts with them).

I’m working to help them stop wasting their time waiting for their external lives to change first and instead work on changing how they show up for their lives. It’s not because I don’t think their external lives should change, but rather because I know the best way to affect that change is to start from within.

They throw all sorts of reasons at me why the power to improve their lives lies in the people and circumstances around them instead of in changing something internal first.

“But I can’t decide how I feel until he tells me what he’s feeling.”

“I can’t be vulnerable until I know she’ll be vulnerable back.”

“I can’t enjoy my job unless my boss changes how he treats me.”

“But what’s the point of doing all this personal work if my partner isn’t committed to growing, too?”

I’m like a broken record.

“For a minute, forget about those things you can’t actually control. Let’s start with you.”

Who do you want to be? How do you want to show up? How do you want to feel?

You’d think we would have learned by now. We keep trying to change others, or change the elements that make up our life circumstances. But this whole system—the nature of people and their relationships to the world around them—all of this seems designed to teach us that our best chance at finding happiness and  peace is to accept that we are powerless to change anything but ourselves.

I know the temptation in pointing to something outside of us that needs to change in order for us to feel better. I still do it all the time. However, I learn more and more each day that it’s just not very effective.

We can’t directly change others. We can only change ourselves and through changing ourselves, we can alter the nature of our relationships to others. That is as far as our influence reaches. Sometimes when our relationship to someone changes, they change, too. Other times, not. But it’s up to them at that point, not us.

Now I don’t mean that we should all sit passively and watch our lives go by. We can do our best to create a good life. We can raise awareness about causes we believe in. We can educate those who want to learn. We can ask for what we need and be generous in return. But unless others decide to work toward changing themselves, our influence will fade and they’ll fall back into their old patterns.

And we’ll be right where we started, too. We’ll still be dependent on them changing in order for us to be okay. That is, until we are willing to be better, regardless of them.

The happiest people I know all understand that the most impactful changes they can make in the world are the changes they make in themselves. They know they can change how they respond to others. They know they can learn to be at peace regardless of their external circumstances. They know that these personal changes tend to have so much more of an effect on others than anything we do to try to convince others to change.

And that’s a relief, isn’t it? It means we really do own the power to be our best and to be happy because that power comes from within rather than from without.